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Albie had been diagnosed with mild dyslexia and his reading age was around 2 years behind!  The standard in private school is often higher, so we were worried about the Entrance Exams.  Soon after he enrolled he started making rapid progress.  The school say he is now Level  5 in literacy and the teacher can see a lot of difference.  His reading age has shot up and the gaps in maths have been filled in and he has caught up amazingly quickly. It has definitely, definitely made a difference and I have recommended the centre to my friends.
Jilly (Albie’s Mum)
We are so pleased that Mahera has got a FULL BURSARY for the local girl’s high school in Portsmouth.  She has been to your centre before for tuition but we came back in November so she could get ready for the exams.   She has worked so hard and Linda has really encouraged her in her writing!  Thanks so much!
Mahera's Mum
“Our children have enjoyed their time at your tuition centre very much, and my wife and I have been incredibly impressed with your professional approach to tuition. Thank you so much for all you have done in making our kids feel comfortable, cared for and safe.” Mr Usuanlele.
Mr UsuanleleParent
Thank you for your lovely card.  You have helped with my creative writing and vocabulary.  I have grown in confidence and I appreciate your help.
Also can I just say a massive thank you too, Ellie was a bit apprehensive before her first session but when she came home last week she was absolutely buzzing, she loved her time spent there and felt so much happier even after just one session. So thank you, she has been so worried about her exams especially English.
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Prezton has done really well and we are very proud of his achievement so thank you all again
Mrs A Laborde
Thank you very much for your help and support in helping Tomek achieve his goals in English
Monica (Tomek’s mum)
I would like to thank you for the enthusiastic way in which you have helped Vicky gain confidence in her abilities to learn.  She has been a different child since coming to you and has a more positive view now!
Vicky's Parents
“Dear Howard Thank you so much for all these lessons you’ve been giving me!  They really have improved my work at school and now I can put all your help to good use with my SATs.  Thank you so much for everything! From Lewis”
Lewis (student)
“Joshua got his GCSE results today and I just wanted to let you know how he got on. He got an 8 in English Language and a 7 in English Literature, he has always struggled with English and wouldn’t of been able to achieve these amazing grades without yours and Adam’s help, if you could please let him know how Joshua done. So once again thank you for all the work you did with him.” Emily (parent) 2021
Emily EvansparentI Love to Learn Portsmouth

Building Resilience

SecondaryStudentBuilding Mental Resilience in Children

The growing mental health crisis is a concern for all parents.  All parents want to encourage their children to be resilient.

The pyschologist Jonathan Haidt has been doing a great deal of research in tracking the trends in child mental health.  He see the changes in parenting in the 90s, along with the rise of social media and the almost universal ownership of mobiles phones by young children as the causes of the crisis.

Understanding Antifragility and Resilience

If we face a tough situation we can either move forward or run away.  I read a book years ago call ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’.  At the time I didn’t really understand it, but looking back I realise that the only way to face your fears is to get braver.  If you wait until the fear goes away it never will.  If you watch ‘The Fear Factor’ the contestants often feel much better for facing their fear of spiders or whatever.  This is why trigger warnings and other ‘fear’ markers are so unhelpful as they make us look for ‘danger’ rather than ‘keeping calm and carrying on’. It’s like building mental muscles through facing and overcoming challenges. Additionally, Haidt delves into the significance of resilience, highlighting the importance of children bouncing back from tough times and emerging emotionally stronger.

The Dangers of Coddling

One of the key aspects of Haidt’s work is the exploration of the dangers associated with overprotecting and shielding children from every obstacle. He addresses the detrimental impact of “coddling” and its potential to hinder the emotional growth of children.

Haidt’s identification of the three great lies –

“What doesn’t kill you makes you weaker,” e.g. stress or challenge may traumatise you which encourages catastrofising.

Instead, point out that we can’t get stronger without resistance.  No challenge no growth!

“Always trust your feelings,” e.g. the whole ‘true to yourself’ thing.

Instead, try to revise negative feelings like ‘I hate maths’ into ‘I find maths difficult, but I am going to do my best’.

“Life is a battle between good people and evil people” – e.g. the world is a dangerous place of struggle

Instead, encourage them to see that no one is perfect and we can all learn and improve every day.

Nurturing a Balanced Environment

As parents, we’ve got a big role in this game. We need to create an environment where our kids can talk openly, take some risks, and learn from their challenges. It’s all about finding that balance between support and letting them spread their wings.

Watch Jonathan Haidt video here….

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