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Thank you for your lovely card.  You have helped with my creative writing and vocabulary.  I have grown in confidence and I appreciate your help.
Naomi
Alex had been tested in Year 4 for dyslexia and he came out mildly dyslexic for spelling.  He has a poor short term memory, and we were concerned about him going to Senior School with these problems. Alex started off a bit ‘anti’, but now he agrees that his writing is better and the improvement has been commented on by teachers.  We are so pleased he is getting professional help, and are especially pleased that he now see the benefit and is self-motivated. He now is now asking for help with his Maths too!
Mrs D Wilson
GCSE Maths
Alex says ” I learned more in three months than my whole time in the maths classroom at school. I went from dreading it to feeling much better about being there.” This Summer he was overjoyed to find that he had gone from a Grade 2 in his mocks up to a Grade 4 (C) pass in his final exam.  
Alex
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Also can I just say a massive thank you too, Ellie was a bit apprehensive before her first session but when she came home last week she was absolutely buzzing, she loved her time spent there and felt so much happier even after just one session. So thank you, she has been so worried about her exams especially English.
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She loves coming, and sees that it helps her at school.  Her scores are going up all the time and recently she got three class awards in three weeks, she says this is ‘Thanks to you.
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“Dear Howard Thank you so much for all these lessons you’ve been giving me!  They really have improved my work at school and now I can put all your help to good use with my SATs.  Thank you so much for everything! From Lewis”
Lewis (student)
winner “We had planned to stop the tutoring after the 11+ exam, but with the next lockdown and more disruption to her education, we quickly relented when she literally begged us to continue going! The sessions are adjusted to her needs and she describes them as ‘really fun’ and she likes it that the work is specific to her level and much more individualised than the class work at school.”
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Overcoming Challenges (like SATs)!

YOU CAN DO IT!

writingYou may have noticed but SATs seem to have had a bad press recently.  As parents, tutors and teachers, how should we respond to this?  Are we setting kids up for failure and depression?

I spoke to someone who didn’t pass her 11+ exam many year ago. She said, “I failed when I was at that age, I was a failure because I didn’t pass the 11+.”

She still felt the pain of this many years later.  Should we blame a system for damaging and hurtfully labelling children?

Prof M Seligman in ‘Learned Optimism’ says that we can teach our children to deal with challenges if we help them fight the worst bully of all, themselves.  It’s that little voice that they hear when things go wrong.  “You’re not good enough, you can’t do it, you never will.”

SOME SUGGESTIONS

  1. When things go wrong be a good model, don’t say ‘I’m such an idiot’ (which is permanent) but ‘I am having a bad day’(which is temporary).
  2.  If, for example, your child gets shouted at by a teacher and feels down, explore with them what that experience makes them believe e.g. he hates me, the class thinks I am stupid.
    Mary
    Ex-Student Mary (Now and Accountant)

    Help them dispute this by making it less personal e.g. He shouts at everyone, the class knows this.  You may want to go through some practice scenarios to help your child develop these skills.

  3.  If they do something well, say something like, ‘because you practised hard you have become much better/faster/stronger.’(personal, they did it)  ‘How do you feel?  I would feel great if I could have done that at your age.’ (feeling good gives them energy)
  4.  If they say ‘I hate maths’ (a permanent negative belief), say ‘You’re just finding it difficult right now but you can work at it.’ (temporary and they can change)

We can’t avoid difficult things in life, and the evidence is that responding with a positive optimistic style is the best way to overcome adversity.  So, ‘Onwards and upwards’ as my mother used to say!

Take a look at this great video. https://youtu.be/2hHNq45rEnU

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