“We had planned to stop the tutoring after the 11+ exam, but with the next lockdown and more disruption to her education, we quickly relented when she literally begged us to continue going! The sessions are adjusted to her needs and she describes them as ‘really fun’ and she likes it that the work is specific to her level and much more individualised than the class work at school.”Parents’ Evenings-How to Get The Most Out Of Them
Does your mind go blank as soon as you sit down with your child’s teacher?
Parents’ evening can be a hassle; fitting it in, dealing with childcare, and then remembering that thing you (or your other half) wanted to mention can be hard.
Here are some ideas to help parents evening run smoothly and make this important part of home school communication more productive.
Talk to the child
Ask your child if there is anything they are concerned about or want to say to the teacher. Communication is two way, and it will encourage/ help the teacher to know how the children are feeling.
Write it down
Make some notes and don’t be afraid to take them. What is the key thing you want to find out? e.g. How can I help at home? What is my child’s attitude to learning? What are my child’s strengths and weaknesses?( If your child is on the SEN register) Can I see the IEP (Individual Educational Plan)? How can I communicate with you more/better?
Focus the conversation
Talk about the child rather than the school. If you feel the school is doing something wrong or you don’t like a certain policy e.g. homework or behaviour, you need to take it up with the leadership (headteacher).
You only have 10 minutes(or maybe 15)!
Don’t store up big issues: make an appointment with the teacher if there is a big problem to discuss, or it can’t be covered there and then. Teachers need to get through a long list of appointments, so overrunning your time stresses out the teacher and makes them late for other parents.
Aim to be positive.
At times we do have issues we are concerned about but try not to start on the offensive. Explain your concerns and ask for solutions and support. Essentially parents and teachers want the same thing, happy children making good progress. If you aren’t happy arrange to speak to the headteacher.
A little thanks
Even if things are not going to plan, try to find something to say thank you for. As everyone knows a little gratitude goes a long way.
Remember, parents evenings are only part of home school communication so don’t be surprised if 10 minutes is not enough. Is most cases teachers are happy to talk more at a convenient time.
